DEAR MISS ELLIE: I am a senior in Christiana, Tenn., and I have huge expectations about prom night. I want the limo, flowers, dinner, the perfect dress, perfect up-do, the perfect date, and the night to be perfect. My parents have ruined my prom by giving me a budget of $300 for the entire event and if I want anything else I have to pay for it. I feel they are being cruel and don’t understand the pressure on a teenager. I think they are being selfish. What am I going to do and tell my friends?
-- POOR IN CHRISTIANA
DEAR POOR IN CHRISTIANA: I really have nothing to say to such a selfish brat, but I will try.
Shame on you for being so selfish. The $300 would feed a family of five people for more than a month, and you are worried about limos and what your friends think. If you were my kid, you would not have a budget at all, you would not be going after this letter.
However, I am going to make a few suggestions to help your parents, see below?
- Go to T.J. Maxx, Ross, or Marshalls for a dress. They have many options for under $50. Or better yet, get a group of friends together and swap out dresses from other events and recycle.
- Swap, trade, or borrow shoes from a friend or relative, no one will be looking at your feet, and vintage is all the rage.
- Limo, let the guy pick you up, he will probably spend all day working on cleaning up his ride just to see you happy, then appreciate it, and say thank you.
- Have you mother, auntie, or someone else in your family do your hair and make-up, they would love to be part of your special day.
- The guy will bring you a corsage, don’t pick this out yourself, this is a gift from him. Take what he gives to you and smile.
- Go someplace you like to eat for dinner, you are young and probably have not been to many five-star restaurants, so go somewhere you both enjoy. Cost is not a factor, eat something you like and fill up so you can dance all night.
- Now, give the budget money back to your parents and show them how responsible you are and that you have matured past being a self-absorbed teenage tyrant, and suggest they donate the money to a local food bank to help those less fortunate.
Ellie
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