DEAR ELLIE: Our daughter is 28 years old and her and her husband are pregnant with our first grandchild. She, of course, is an overachiever and has become an expert on everything “baby,” and I have become a moron and know nothing about infants. I have raised six children, five of which I have given birth.

She has become so obnoxious that her father and I are spending little time with her and missing out on this pregnancy. What is the answer?

-- SAD MIMI-TO-BE IN MURFREESBORO

DEAR SAD MIMI: A family member having a baby, if the family is close, one would like to think it could or would be a family event, especially with so many siblings to support her.

Maybe you can remember back to when you were pregnant with your first and how scared you may have been, anxious or maybe you too read everything you could get your hands on to mold you into the perfect mommy. Then maybe when the last baby came, you let him or her juggle knives while teething.

Talk with her gently that you and her father feel left out, and remind her that you have vast experience, and are always available to lean on and be involved.

You sound like you love her greatly and just want to be a part of her life. If so, then be a part of it. Don’t let a few months of bossy mommy take you down, you are the Mimi after all.

When the baby has colic, teething, and starts taking back after learning the word ”no,” I have a feeling she will be calling you often and begging for help.

Ellie 

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